Since I was old enough to know what sexual intercourse was, which was about the age of 8 or 9, all I ever wanted to do was 'do it'. It sounded good when people talked about it, when girls bragged about their experience, although many of them didn't tell the whole truth...that it hurt like hell the first time around.But the coming together so intimately, so close, that was what I craved...that's what felt like LOVE.
Now, many, many years later from my first sexual intercourse at age 14 to now at age 57, I am learning from
the written word of 'Sexual Teachings of the White Tigress' that sexual intercourse should be reduced rather than increased.
(Of course, all of this is a matter of preference and not carved in stone. It's just another way of looking at a subject. Each of us gets to choose what works for us. I am just here to share the information I have received).
According to the White Tigress teachings, "too much intercourse ruins the entire genital area. It causes the
skin color of the labia and pubic mound to darken, dries up the internal sexual secretions, and creates skin sacs that hang downward from the vulva.
Too much intercourse may cause premature graying and loss of pubic hair, sagging of the breasts, widening of the hips, flattening of the buttocks, aging spots of the body, vaginal cysts, yeast infections, and cervical cancer, and also aids in easy infection from a variety of STD's". (Dang...none of this is good and certainly not sexual healing)
All women should be very reserved about how much intercourse they have.
Wow! This is something to consider. Again, not what we are taught here in this culture.
Males are taught from an early age to go get the pussy...and girls are encouraged to give it up. For the most part it's purely physical especially at an early age and really at any age...we are still 'doing it' for the feeling rather than the spiritual connection and healing benefits of the sexual experience.
It further states in the Sexual Teachings of The White Tigress..."Intercourse is very hard on a woman's
body, and over an extended period of time, it takes its toil on her entire physical appearance and health.
The stimulation of the vagina and production of sexual secretions, however, are beneficial to the vagina, bringing many restoring hormones and nutrients to it.
All contact with the vagina should be be approached with the idea of not damaging it, and women and men should always seek to be gentle with it.
When a White Tigress has intercourse , she attempts to control the energy of the penis penetrating her
vagina. Whenever engaging in any act where her vagina is being touched or penetrated, she always
thinks of herself as a girl of twelve or so, so that the energy applied will be reduced and avoided.
The verse, "Stimulate the lotus but do not harm the petals" was recited for good reason.
How interesting. So what I get from this writing is that we as women are really abusing our 'sacred temple'
when we have intercourse especially hard, thrashing, banging, rough sex. I can understand what is being said
because for me, a gentle stroke with my Lover is my ultimate Love experience.
I know for some sisters, they like that banging, deep penetration stuff ...and if that's your thing....to each her own.
The question on my mind is how does this serve us and is this sexual healing? Do we really prefer that kind
of 'sexual encounter' or is this something we have just settled for because it's what we are use to. For me, a gentle intimate intertwining and soft stroking with my Lover is so sweet, so tender...I want more of that....that is what feels like Lovemaking...to me.
I like these teachings because they just make good sense. When we think of a sacred temple you don't think about something harsh or abrasive...but rather soft, gentle, peaceful...like walking into an Ashram for the purpose of prayer and meditation. What a Divine feeling...to have our Lover enter the sacred 'yoni' temple with reverence and for the purpose of healing.
Excerpts from http://www.templeoftantra.com
...."Intercourse is but one of many ways two people can share sexual experiences. It is also a pathway to female orgasm for only about 30% of women. The other 70% tend to want reliable clitoral stimulation in order to climax"...
(yep...that's me). It ain't in the penetration...it's in the stimulation that I get the most intense pleasure...the kind that takes me to "Infinity and Beyond!"
An observation from Amahata:
"There seem to be a few men who are not sensitive to this issue most of them don't feel that they are actually bumping into the woman's cervix as they also like to do deep thrusts. And women don't always speak up about the discomfort.and it can be a tragic end result. So women, communicate (nicely of course) and men let your lingam be beautifully sensitive to her so you both can soar together"...
Sisters if you are allowing, accepting and tolerating pain during your lovemaking....Love yourself and honor your sacred temple and your body's health and well being and "STOP in the Name of Love".
Consider this and meditate on what is in the highest good for YOU....Beloved.
We are in control of how our 'yoni' is handled....it must be with gentleness so as not to damage
it sacredness.
Namaste'
